11 Reasons Why I Quit My Job ‍‍ (Broke bond)

𝘿𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙡𝙖𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙧:

✨ The following are based on what I've personally experienced and observed in my previous job.

✨ Everyone’s limits are different and the issues may vary in severity – you know your own limits.

✨ The situation in the firm might change for the better now – perhaps.

✨ If you also encounter such issues, it’s best that you talk to someone who can empathise with you & provide solutions for the next course of action.

✨ Start looking for job elsewhere as a form of backup before you make your exit.

I’ll be using these terms throughout just to show the hierarchy. Won’t be using the exact job titles because it’ll be so obvious esp if you’re in my industry 😂

👉🏼 No. 1 = Main leader

👉🏼 No. 2 = Reports to main leader

👉🏼 No. 3 = Person I report directly to and is supposed to be under No. 1 and 2.

1️⃣ 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗲

The leaders were undermining each other 🫠

Imagine No. 2 who was supposed to be under No. 1 openly undermine (nag/yell) at No. 1 in front the other employees. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You know it’s bad when your direct report (No. 3) tells you that being under No. 1 made him/her feel like they went backwards 10 years 🤦🏻‍♀️ (this person has been an architect for 10+ years). Yikes. I really witnessed how No. 3 gradually lost confidence in himself/herself.

And on top of that, No. 2 and 3 are not communicating cus they also cannot stand each other’s working habits. 🫢 Yeap, we’re off to a chaotic start with point one.

2️⃣ 𝗕𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲’𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗲)

No. 1 comes in at noon and works till 10pm, sometimes even later. It’s extremely difficult to catch No. 1 because of how packed the afternoon is. A lot of times said person will only be free after 7pm. This meant that we can only discuss things with said person after official working hours. Btw my friends who are still working there are still going home at 10pm. “9pm on good days” – they said. LOL 🫣

3️⃣ 𝗨𝗻𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁

There was one team member (an experienced senior who was supposed to guide us) that doesn’t attend project meetings – not even internal ones. 😑 This person can come in to work at 4pm and work till the wee hours. The cycle would then repeat itself. The rest of us didn’t understood why this was tolerated by the management. There were many occasions where the team had to backtrack and update this person which was so ridiculous. 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

4️⃣ 𝗖𝗮𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗴𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀

The stipulated knock off time was 7pm but people rarely go home at that time. There was once when a couple of us left at 7.30pm and just so happen No. 1 came up at that time to run through some stuff with the night owl 🙄 This was what No. 1 said, “Wah leaving already ah!? Still early. ” Just imagine how we felt. This contributed to the fear of leaving before No. 1 on a day to day basis. 👀

Problematic person (No. 2) always complained openly to everyone – including other consultants on the phone and in WhatsApp groups that he/she “is very tired because I work 24/7”. 😪 Implying that he/she is the only one working their a$$ off and have to pick up after everyone else. Made us feel as though we’re lazy and are underperforming.

5️⃣ 𝗟𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸-𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗯𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

The first instance was during covid period when all of us brought back our heavy PC stations home to work. Imagine being called to have a zoom call at 10pm to run through the project with No. 1. 🫠 It was quite bad and I wasn’t even aware about how bad it was until my family had to point out blatantly in my face that it was happening too frequently. 🤦🏻‍♀️

There were a couple of people who will work till 1-2am in the mornings and would even come in to work on weekends. 🫣 I’m not sure if it’s coincidental or not but they were the ones who were promoted too. Granted they are extremely hardworking but it does send wrong signals to the rest of the employees right? Is this the culture we’re celebrating? 🤔🤔🤔

6️⃣ 𝗗𝗲𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

It is a given that all employees have to embody high standards in this firm. It’s something which the firm takes pride in, hence they can come up with good looking projects. 😣 The major issue we faced was we didn’t have someone who could effectively lead and guide us. So we struggled real bad. Note that my direct report aka No. 3 was already feeling dejected and was also new to the company.

7️⃣ 𝗨𝗻𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀

Upon coming back to office after my marriage leave, the unreasonable person (No. 2) didn’t even congratulate me. Instead, said person barged to my table and screamed at me for the work that I wasn’t even aware that I was supposed to do. 🤯 Funny thing was No. 1 witnessed the whole thing and knew the crazy person was indeed mental. But nothing was done to protect me. I was so upset that I teared. It was hilarious cus my intern had to comfort me and said “LET IT OUT SHERRY!”. You must understand I’m not confrontational person so I didn’t stand up for myself. Wish I did 👊🏻😂

8️⃣ 𝗛𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲

I believe this doesn’t happen in all teams because I do hear of good bosses and happy teams; but it definitely applied to the team I was in. Apparently after I left, there were many who came and left shortly after. They didn’t even hit their probation period 😂 Must’ve been real bad. It speaks volume actually. And I’m happy to know that they are SELF-AWARE of what’s acceptable and what’s not.

9️⃣ 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗯𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴

I personally think that this is ok if it happens occasionally – part and parcel of working life. Wow but this literally went on on a day-to-day basis. All we spoke about during lunch was how bad the management was. Honestly, It was such a negative environment to be in. рџ«

🔟 𝗧𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁

You can literally hear a pin drop when the problematic person (No. 2) was in the office. The atmosphere was extremely tensed. We were communicating through WhatsApp and not talking face to face because the common ‘enemy’ was in our space 😂 Looking back, it was terrible. The office should be an avenue where open communications can take place without fear.

1️⃣1️⃣ 𝗟𝗼𝘄 𝗸𝗲𝘆 ‘𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱’ 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆

Both incidents happened during my exit interviews. It came as a shock to me because I wasn’t expecting them to say things like “many people are lining up to join us…” , “do you know how prestigious our firm is?” 🙄 Was so upset because they didn’t even try to empathise why I even thought of leaving in the first place 🫣 They only cared about their reputation.

🥺 Well I always tell people the whole incident felt like a bad breakup because I cried my heart out when I spoke to one of the person from the management team who also happened to interview me when I was in Uni for this scholarship bond many years back. Unfortunately this was also one of the two persons mentioned in point 11. 🙄

𝘼𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 𝙖𝙡𝙡, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙬 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙮 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙞𝙣 𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙣𝙚. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙, 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙢𝙮 (𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙙) 𝙚𝙭𝙞𝙩. 😮‍💨

𝙄𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙧𝙮 𝙚𝙭𝙞𝙩.

👉🏼 I quit my dream job

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