it’s 4 weeks since our wedding, and ever since then i’ve been feeling so many different emotions, but mainly happiness and relief😮💨
i went to google a lil before writing this post, and there’s actually something called post-wedding blues (worst case, depression).
i would say #weddingplanning was easy mostly because i love planning! i #DIYed a lot of stuff for my wedding, so i spent a lot of time designing and making the items. the toughest part for me was dealing w shawn’s parents (in laws😩), and so many times during the process i kept asking myself if i was ready for #marriedlife (cos marriage is not only about 2 person, but it involves 2 families right?). i decided that it wasn’t worth ending a relationship because of his parents + i will not let anyone affect our rs as it would be unfair for shawn as well.
don’t get me wrong, i think my in laws are not bad people, just that we have different perspectives (which is normal). i believe that compromise from all parties involved is needed in any & every relationship, but it can’t only be me trying to understand/give in (more about this maybe in another post).
my parents on the other hand, were very understanding because they trust my planning😂 they were really worried though, seeing how often shawn and i quarrelled during the planning process. my mum even told me i should’ve just registered and gone for my honeymoon. and to have her say this, really means a lot because she liked big weddings. my sis got married during covid so it was a small wedding w 100 pax (& w this statement, you’ll realise how tough it was for me🥹).
😊😮💨happiness & relief
halfway through i felt so done w wedding planning, i actually became sad. was everything worth it? why am i spending so much to make myself unhappy? i stopped doing my online business for close to 9 months to prep for the wedding. my edutech business partners were all v understanding towards me, so i had the flexibility to complete my part on my own time. i gave up my time to plan, but in return i was so unhappy because things weren’t going my way. so yes, after the wedding, i’m so much happier! i’ve signed up for classes, planning my time and goals for the rest of 2023, and also building up my businesses again!
🥲🥹 regret & underwhelmed
i’m lucky so many friends reminded me to be happy, and let things go, right before the wedding. i wish i could’ve felt happier during the planning process🥲 after the wedding, so many people asked us “how’s married life?!” honestly? underwhelming🤣 we’ve been staying tgt for 2 years, so we’ve been seeing each other everyday for so long + we didn’t go for our honeymoon right after the wedding (schedule + we didn’t have time to plan).
overall i’m still happy, but i wish those who are getting married can remember during the wedding planning process, that the wedding is for you! do what makes you happy. don’t regret spending so much and end up being unhappy. don’t let anger and sadness be the only feelings you have when you reminisce your wedding day.
i’ll be sharing more on the process, from the proposal, to proposal ring + wedding band shopping, pws, all the diy stuff, other prep stuff, etc!
if you’ve read the entire post, thank you!!! thank you for reading my lil rant, and if you feel that same, and need someone to talk to, i’m just one dm away!!!
#weddingsg #AdultingWoes
