When people talk about NS, most of them will mention about the INFAMOUS NS CURSE — “aiya will break up one la” However, I would say otherwise for my relationship. My relationship with my boyfriend improved significantly😯
BACKSTORY💌
I have been together with my boyfriend for close to 3 years. We were both from the same course in poly and started dating after Y1S1 LOL DURING COVID PERIOD😷 We clicked right off the bat and became close friends that would vidcall every night to complete assignments together. My boyfriend at that point in time was not keen on being in a relationship as he had commitment issues but I was very persistent in chasing him which he eventually caught feelings🤪💓
Many couples will go through honeymoon phase during the first few months of their relationship, however, mine was a pretty rocky start as I am an anxious attachment person while my boyfriend is an avoidant attachment person. During arguments, I would always want to resolve it right away while my boyfriend need his me times to reflect before addressing the problem. With these 2 clashing attachment styles, it was a tough period as we kept having arguments often that we brought up about BREAKUP almost every time💔 We realised it was straining the relationship and had multiple H2H talks to address all those problems. It all boils down to me wanting to spend more time with him while he was fine with meeting probably just twice a week as he is a person who needs his alone time. Due to the distance between where we both live, I tend to sleepover at his house which means meeting 24/7, from home to school and back. 🏠🏫 This unsolved issue went on until he was enlisted and things started to get better.
NS PHASE🪖
When my boyfriend was enlisted, it was definitely a 180 change for me that I have to adapt to especially when I literally spent 24/7 with him for the past 3 years. He enlisted early and is in CDO which meant that he had to go through 3wks confinement twice unlike the usually NSBOYS that goes to Tekong😭 Initial phase was so hard to get by especially when I just started FT Internship which I cried almost every night LOL 💀 As time passes, I became more independent and less reliant on my boyfriend (mainly emotional support) Since I get to see him lesser, I always look forward to the weekends where I will fetch him during bookouts and sent him off EVERY book-ins YES IM THAT OF A DEDICATED GF🥰 Like anyone would say – “distance makes the heart grows fonder”💞 I NEVER UNDERSTOOD THAT STATEMENT until this. We both misses each other alot and I was his ONE & ONLY emotional support that he can confine to during this tough phase esp if you know how XIONG cdo training are😢 The multiple injuries that he sustained in the past 4 mths made him craved for my care even more. We also have lesser arguments as I became more understanding with the harsh trngs he is going through and had little to no time to reply to my msgs, but that also made him more proactive in updating me if he doesn’t reply my msgs for a long period of time at least my anxious attachment issue doesn't act up. IT TAKES TWO HANDS TO CLAP👏🙌
During the past 4 months of being an NSGF, I would say that my relationship really improved significantly and I saw more growth in myself❣️📈 We both always dreaded to go through phase, especially knowing about the NS CURSE. However, this has became a much needed phase for us to work on our relationship and cherish each other more. Also to work on my self growth towards being less dependent on him and to have a personal life outside of my relationship.📝
