It’s not easy JOURNEY for us, “Love is love. if you fall in love with a person, nothing else really matters but the genuine love for each other”
• TBH, when my family found out I was in a relationship with my husband, my family really judged me a lot.
they said that my r/s wouldn’t last long, they even say later when we have kids, our children skin color will follow the father etc, I feel like they just being racist.
• LDR it’s not easy even it’s very near for both of us.
Singapore > Batam. we really had a hard time seeing each other, my family always don’t really allowed me go out with him.
• Long story short, after 3 years in r/s with my husband i decided to ran away from home 😂
and came to live in SG with my husband and in laws.
after a few months we got married 🥳
> I can tell you for sure that our relationship in the beginning felt like we were on a fast track 😅
• How it feel like marrying someone of different race -> cultural differences all???!
HMMM so I can’t compare what it feels like to marry someone from a different culture with what it feels like to marry someone from the same culture from personal experience. But I think we’re just a normal couple: we have some common interests and some different ones, we have different communication styles that we’re always learning to make the best of, we have mutual respect for one another, and we love one another.
• If you marry someone because you think you like the person they COULD be, that’s a red flag: you’re not comfortable with who they ARE. Marriage is supposed to be for life, and of course both partners will influence each other, and both partners will change in certain ways over the course of years, but the culture your partner came from is not going to change. The culture you came from isn’t going to change, either. Maybe you’re attached to your cultures in some ways and not others, or maybe you follow some traditions but not all of them, but no matter your relationship with your separate cultures, that is where you came from. husband and I keep trying to do our best to learn about the other’s culture and to be open-minded.
• Example >> my husband learned my language which Bahasa, he even learn to speak Hokkien 😂
It's the same with me, I'm slowly learning his language which is Tamil ✌🏻 The most important thing is to respect each other's culture.
• 𝐖𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐮𝐬.
• 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐈'𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝
• The foundation of your relationship has to be rock solid
• Focus on how happy your partner makes you > not others' opinions.
• Explore your partner's culture.
• Have an understanding of your partner’s culture
• Work to intentionally make your relationship a safe space.
• Have an honest discussion with your partner
• Discuss boundaries
• Build your support system
• 𝟖 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐲 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐠𝐨… and the ups and downs of our journey have taught us not only that these low points are typical, but that the repair process can build trust and deepen intimacy. 𝗜𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 ✌🏻
